Oct 30, 2009

Productive Week

I bet you've all but given up on checking for blog updates - my apologies! I have excuses, so forgive me please :)

Last week Austin told me every day about new people at work who were sick with what seemed to be the flu. The Buckley clinic wasn't seeing anyone with flu symptoms, and you can't miss work without the doctor's permission, so plenty of people were going in sick. It's the military's infinite wisdom - its amazing. Because of how many sick people he was around, we knew it was just a matter of time before he got it...and then before I got it. We also knew that, seeing as the military mandates flu shots, whatever strain they had wasn't covered in the shot so I wasn't covered either. It was just a matter of playing the waiting game.

Austin started to feel sick Thursday, then was at his worst Friday - I was just a day behind him as I started having a sore throat Friday then Saturday got progressively worse as the day went on. The on-call doctor at my OB clinic called in Tamiflu for me - which helped the flu, but brought on nausea so I didn't really feel great until...well, I still wouldn't use the word "great"...but I would say I started to feel better Wednesday.

Which was just in time for our first winter blizzard to come in. Wednesday morning's drive to work was pretty nasty, and it only got worse from that point through last night. My office closed early Wednesday, which I figured would happen, and then to my surprise even Buckley closed down early. So, what do people do when they have snow days? Go out to lunch/happy hour with their friends of course! We went to Old Chicago with some of Austin's friends from work, but the snow really started coming down about 2 hours into our stay there so we called it a day and went home. That's where we stayed until this morning when we had to go to work :( Yesterday wasn't as glamorous as I thought a snow day would be - but that might be because it was snowing too much to even go out there and play in it. The snow was blowing sideways, so anytime we tried going outside we were slapped in the face with snow. You wouldn't think that cute little harmless snowflakes would hurt - but they do!

In the end I think we got about 12 inches of snow at our house. Our backyard has snow levels that go halfway up the fence in some areas, we can't see any of our poor little bushes, and our blue spruce tree can hardly hold his branches up with all the weight sitting on them. It is SO pretty :) Austin even agrees that its pretty...or he did agree until 6:15 this morning when went out and shoveled for over an hour. He tried to keep up with it Wednesday, which theoretically makes it easier to shovel...but if you shovel 10 times for 20 minutes or one time for 80 minutes...which is better? This morning he declared we need a snow blower, so I'm guessing neither theory is really that great when you're talking about a foot of snow.

Today was my 24 week appointment. I had to do the blood glucose screen - ICK. The orange drink wasn't as bad as I'd anticipated, in the beginning, so it did not taint my memory of precious Robert like I was afraid it might. However, my stomach did NOT like the influx of sugar when there was nothing else to absorb it. Then the nurse "forgot" to take enough blood to do the normal blood testing, so I got pricked twice...I swear its a conspiracy at that place! The doctor let me know their H1N1 vaccines are in...yippee. I let her know that I had the other flu shot, and still got the flu, but she wasn't entertained and didn't even let me consider not getting the H1N1. people should really find more humor in things :) I couldn't get that shot today because I'm not 100% after last weekend, so I get to go BACK to the doctor next week sometime for that shot. my next appointment is the Monday after Thanksgiving, and then I have to start going every 2 weeks! I remember at the veerrrrry beginning when the doctor told me the schedule of appointments, and how after 28 weeks you go every 2 weeks until 36 weeks. I remember thinking "28 weeks? that's forever away" Yet, here it is - just around the corner.

We've got a busy month between now and then! Tonight Austin is taking me on a "date" - not sure where to, I'll let you know the details later if I feel like it :) Tomorrow night I'm hoping the weather doesn't deter the trick-or-treaters...I'm not huge on halloween but I love answering the door and handing out candy :) Then next weekend we're going to Boulder to watch the Ags BTHO CU, the next week I'll be in FLORIDA, the weekend after Florida we're celebrating our 2 year anniversary (a month early) in Estes park, then we have the last 2 November weekends in Texas. Next thing I know it'll be December...time to chop down a tree, decorate for Christmas, and thennnnnn....

it'll be 2010! My favorite year ever :)

That little look-ahead made me tired, so I'm gonna go now :) Have a great weekend and a happy pumpkin day!!!

Oct 23, 2009

Whoops, There's a Bump There

Happy Friday! My day is flying by, which is shocking seeing as I've had no motivation to work and generally on days when I don't work (either due to lack of motivation or lack of work to be done) time seems to pass slower. I do actually have something I need to get done today - I just don't wanna :)

I went to Panera Bread for lunch today. I went by myself - just wanted out of the office really, its a beautiful day - and sometimes solitude is better than anything else. As I got out of my trailblazer I closed the door and started to walk towards the front doors when BAM, out of nowhere the mirror on the car next to me slammed into me. How rude is that? I didn't really think anything, just kept walking, and continued on inside to order my meal and find a table. When I sat down I put my coat behind my chair, hung my purse on it, and began to sit in the seat. As I did so, I think someone must have bumped into my table or something because suddenly I was unable to get into my chair; the table was now in my way. I slid the chair back a bit and sat down.

Suddenly I realized...that car mirror didn't really JUMP out at me did it? And since no one had walked by my table, that must mean no one moved that either. It occurred to me that this was the third day this week in which something has mysteriously moved itself to be in my way as I've walked. So, I'm beginning to think that maybe items aren't actually moving...maybe my perception of how much space I need is slowly growing more and more inaccurate as my belly is growing more and more...and more.

A girl I went to high school with is 2 months further along than I am and she posted a picture on facebook of her belly at 29 weeks. She labeled it "29 weeks, 44 inches and growing" I thought to myself, "whoa, 44 inches? she was such a small girl before! I don't want to be 44 inches!!!" I then decided, to make myself feel better and convince myself I won't be 44 inches 7 weeks from now, that I should measure around my belly. Boy did I NOT convince myself. 40 inches. WHAT?!? 5 months ago I bought a pair of blue jeans with a 31 waist. 40??? I'm guessing 7 weeks from now I'll surpass that measly 44 inch mark.

So while the scale still isn't tipping as quickly as the doctor would like, there is definite growth. Whether I like it or not.

Oct 21, 2009

Snow

It's SNOWING today :) What a beautiful sight to see when I peaked through the blinds this morning before crawling out of bed.

The forecast was for "light snow in the morning, possibly light snow in the afternoon" with an accumulation of less than 2 inches. Well, the backyard already had 2 inches on the grass at 6:00 this morning, and the light snow hasn't stopped since...so I'm thinking it MAY even be enough for snow angels tonight :) The weather men can't ever seem to get it right can they?

The roads still weren't cold enough for anything to stick, but it did make for a slushy drive in this morning. And, as always on the first slushy drive of the year, there were quite a few cars who thought they could drive as normal and ended up meeting the guardrails.

But, I'll take my 55mph slushy drive in exchange for the morning beauty!!!

Oct 20, 2009

Update on Reagan

I realized last week that I had never updated many people on Reagan's status after our vet appointment. With everything else going on, I just kind of forgot to mention it. There's a slogan in the Army, that is applicable in lots of venues, that "no news is good news" and this is the case with Reagan. My lack of news for you is actually the presence of good news, so you can breathe a sigh of relief now.

We took Reagan to the vet the morning before we flew to Texas for Alexis's wedding - a few hours before we found out William was a William rather than a Wilma. (by the way, Wilma was NEVER on the drawing board) The vet talked about amputation, like I told you he would, but I had also heard from a friend that there is a product available at Petco called "petease" or "fel-away" (there are a few manufacturers) I asked the vet about the product and he said its hit or miss - some people love it and say it works wonders, some people think its a crock and haven't noticed one bit of difference besides the $30 spent. He said in his opinion, its worth a shot - because surgery should be the last resort. He explained that the surgery itself isn't dangerous or harmful, but there's no guarantee that the problem is purely damaged nerve endings, which means there is no guarantee surgery would cure him. So exploring all options before amputation would be a good idea.

We told the vet that we would be out of town for 5 days, and generally 2 days is enough to initiate some tail slaughtering, so we thought it'd be a good time to attempt to soothe him with pet-ease. The product works like a glade plug in air freshener, except rather than fumigating the house with the scent of roses, it sends off cat pheromones that are supposed to calm cats. The packaging advertises that it can be used to deter cats from urinating in unwanted places, scratching unwanted areas, and "other behavioral issues". Worth a shot right?

We came home from Alexis's wedding fully expecting a bloody battle to have taken place in our kitchen, bedroom, bathroom, and elsewhere - but there was no blood to be found. Hooray! But - the joy didn't stop there. This pet-ease has turned Reagan into a new (and improved) cat!

I don't know if I painted the portrait of Reagan very well in my last post, but let me reiterate that he is an ABSURD animal. I love him to death, and of the 3 pets he brings me the most joy. He also, however, brings me the most agony. This was the case throughout college as he would SPRINT down the hallway and slam into my bedroom door, as he would climb up the bedroom door in my apartment, and then in our house now as he knows how to OPEN the doors. He whines incessantly from 4 am until I choose to feed him breakfast, and it is impossible to enter the kitchen for any period of time longer than 2 seconds without being berated by his symphonic howling for food. He likes to jump on top of people as they sleep, all 22 pounds of him, he thinks he is slim enough to fit through our wooden blinds (and sees nothing wrong with MAKING himself fit...whatever that entails...) and he generally likes to make raucous out of everything.

That, however, is the old Reagan. While he's still peculiar and quirky, he has a calm sense about him that he has never had. He CUDDLES with Austin every night, and anyone who knows about Reagan and Austin's strained history knows that is pretty remarkable. I'm not sure which is more remarkable - that Reagan chooses to sleep on Austin all night, or that Austin allows him to. He has scaled back his howling, to some degree, he only runs around like a mad-man on cocaine once or twice a night, as opposed to hours upon hours each night, and SOMETIMES he even waits for me to determine his feeding time. This "pet-ease" is like a miracle drug and I'm not sure how I've never heard of it before.

We did have to upgrade from one adaptor to two, as we noticed his calm behavior didn't carry throughout the house, and we already had to refill the adaptors once...so this isn't a cheap investment. But, what's $30/month for a happy cat? After all, if Reagan ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

Oct 19, 2009

What a Weekend!

I don't know if the stars were properly aligned, or what it was that made this weekend so fabulous - maybe just the mere fact that I wasn't working - but it was one of the best weekends I've had in a long time, definitely the best since the Holloway wedding weekend in September!

We didn't have any major plans other than getting William's closet organized and going to the mountains, so we just kind of let the rest of the weekend dictate itself. Friday after work I went to Container Store to get the closet stuff, then we had dinner and after dinner we went to Maggie Moo's for a banana split! We ordered a 'half split' to share, but the ice-cream-scooper offered to give us the regular for the price of the half since Austin is in the military. I think he just didn't want to have half of a banana sitting out for the rest of the night, but either way - works for me. It was delicious :) We had udderly cream, strawberry, and choco-mallow ice cream...have I ever written about how much I love Maggie Moo's? I doubt I have. I try to avoid the place as much as possible...liking ice cream isn't the healthiest thing, you know. But Austin offered, and I'd have been rude to resist, so I accepted just to be polite :)

Saturday morning Reagan woke me up bright and early (we're talking 4 am early) and I had trouble going back to sleep. It still baffles me that during the week I have NO trouble going back to sleep at 6:30, but on the weekends I seem to be wide awake at 5. I just laid in bed thinking about what we'd do all day, William's closet, football, etc - just thinking. I think I dozed off about 6 and then was woken up, by Reagan yet again, around 7:30. After breakfast I had Austin install the top-track for the closet, then I got the rest of the closet done. I'm sure large closets can take hours and hours to complete, but William's closet is pretty small so it went pretty fast. The longest part was trying to decide how far apart I wanted the shelves. When it was all done I was sad because it was so empty, but that didn't last long because one of Austin's coworkers gave us 3 boxes full of clothes, a high chair, a bouncer seat, and a jumper-thing on Saturday. The bigger items barely looked used (we'll need to clean them first, just for good measure, but they look pretty new!) and most of the clothes looked barely worn.

We didn't keep all of the clothes - some were stained or just not our style (my son is NOT wearing a hooters onesie, and especially not one that has words written in ebonics) so we have some of the clothes in a box to take to goodwill. We got them all sorted by size and I got them all washed (amazing how much more fun his clothes are to wash and fold than ours...) Most of the clothes were 12 months, then there were quite a big of 18-24 month, and some smaller clothes...I think that's a pretty good mix to get. We won't have to buy 12 month blue jeans, I know that much...she gave us 7 pair! I got 2 storage tubs to put under the guest bed, one for 12 month clothes and one for 18-24. For now I think we'll keep all of the clothes up to 12 months in his closet and/or dresser, and then swap them as he grows. Here are my two tubs of clothes, the bottom being 12 months and the top being 18-24:
Since I was already doing his laundry, I threw in most of the clothes that we already had too so that they'd be washed and cleaned. I LOVED the smell of the Dreft detergent that permeated the house as I did 3 loads of baby laundry. Its pretty addicting :) I still have a couple items of his to wash, but for the most part its all clean. I began to wonder, though, about washing EVERYTHING before he's here. On the one hand, its less to do later, but what about the fact that they say most babies, especially first babies, grow out of clothes before ever being able to wear them. If that's true but I've already taken tags off and washed them, I'm just stuck with them right? I suppose the clothes we have now would already be too old to return, but if I buy some closer to when he's born maybe I'll consider keeping the tags on (or maybe I SHOULD consider just not buying them...they're just so cute...) Anyhow, once the laundry was all done and the clothes all sorted, I got to hang the smaller clothes in his closet :)


The closet may not be easy to see - there is a top shelf, then the middle shelf is a basket separated into 3 sections, then under the basket there is a hanging rod that goes 1/2 way across and 3 shelves on the other half (those are above the diapers) We bought the diapers at Costco a few weeks ago - 260 diapers - sheesh that's a lot. Or it SEEMS like a lot :) They are size 2 - i THINK that is for 12-18 pounds, but I could be wrong.

The rest of Saturday was filled with relaxation - laying on the couch watching episodes of the Unit, some football games, and eating leftovers for dinner. Typically leftovers are my LEAST favorite thing to eat, but not cooking sounded sooooo nice...and it was. We had to get to bed at a decent time because we had to get up early to make it to the early service of church. Church starts at 8 and 10:30, but we usually go to the 10:30 service. I don't make it to WORK by 8, so the chances of making it anywhere at that time are just pretty slim. We did manage to get to church before the actual service began, though we did miss the announcements, so I was pretty impressed with my speedy preparations Sunday morning :) Maybe I was just SO excited to go up into the mountains that I popped right out of bed!

After church we drove up to Dillon, where Keystone ski resort is. There are only 2 ski lifts open right now, one at Loveland and one at A-basin, so the options aren't too diverse. Austin got the military season pass, which is 1/2 the price of a regular season pass, and it includes Keystone and A-basin. He met 2 of his friends there for an afternoon of skiing/sliding down mountains while I took in the GORGEOUS weather at the outlet mall nearby. I'm always up for looking at the Coach outlet, though I've never bought myself anything there, and I thought I should look for winter-accessories at the baby outlet stores to see if anything was on sale. Osh-Kosh b-gosh had a good winter sale going on, so I got some little blue mittens for $3, a pair of red corduroy overalls for $9, a thermal onesie to go with the overalls, and a onesie that says "Handsome like dad" which was on sale for $2. I know I just got finished saying I SHOULD resist buying clothes, but it was too cute to pass up :) The "handsome" onesie is for 6-9 months, or 9-12 I can't remember, but the rest was for him when he's born. I would say its my favorite outfit, but that seems to change with every new outfit. Anytime we buy or receive a new outfit, it becomes my new favorite...so I'll just say the red overalls are my favorite for now. And if he comes a week early, they'll be so festive for valentines :)

Austin determined on Sunday while we were talking to my mom that he will no longer be using the term "onesie". Austin is VERY concerned with things being "girly" (overly concerned, obsessed even) and anytime something looks, sounds, feels, REMOTELY feminine, William can not have it. I think this is a battle we'll fight for awhile...and one that we'll both probably win sometimes and lose sometimes. So I'll concede on the "onesie" topic and save my energy for fighting on something else...like the panda knit hat that William WILL be wearing. We're not sure what term he'll use in the place of onesie, but the options that are on the table are "full body armor", "bodysuit", "full body cloth thing" and "button in the crotch clothes" None of which sound girly at all, I have assured him :) Granted I'm not the one who had the issue with onesie to begin with, so what do I know?

Once I had browsed all the baby outlets (and only made the ONE purchase, be very proud) I went to Old Navy to get some shirts for Austin. He is never going to be mistaken for a fashionista or metrosexual man, that's for sure, but he has told me that he'd like to try to look a little nicer sometimes. The issue isn't really that he doesn't HAVE nicer clothes, its that he doesn't ever choose to wear them. He has pointed out that most of his non-button up shirts are related to either the Aggies, the Texans, or the Astros and he'd like to have some shirts that aren't button up, cause that's way too dressy for a day at the mall, but aren't just casual sports-tshirts either. So I found him some in-between shirts, as he called them, at Old Navy for very cheap.

To close out my day in the mountains I bought a new book at Borders, got a hot chocolate, and sat out on the balcony and read. I will admit that every page or 2 I was distracted by the beauty of Colorado, so I didn't get much reading done, but it was a wonderful day. The weather was perfect - sunny, not many clouds, 63 degrees, a little breeze - my kind of day. I tried to get a few pictures of the view on my phone, but I think the sun was TOO bright for the phone's capacity, so the pictures came out dark. I'll share anyway, just because I loved the view so much :)


And that was my weekend! A few chapters into my book it was time to go get Austin, we drove home, watched some football, made chicken salad, and headed off to bed. He was a bit sore, and entertaining to watch as he walked, from his day of skiing - I don't think his calves and lower-leg tendons were prepared for skiing yet, but he stretched a lot so this morning he was feeling much better. I don't think I could have designed a better weekend - maybe, but I doubt it. Have I ever mentioned that I love where I live? If you can't remember why, just scroll up a bit until you can see that last picture...I don't know how I'll ever *willingly* leave this place. For now, I'll just keep staring off in the distance and counting my blessings.

Oct 12, 2009

#36

Austin and I went to Target yesterday to register for William. When we went wedding-registering I quickly learned that Austin has more opinions than he generally lets on, and he DEFINITELY likes to point scanners at bar codes and pull the trigger, so to speak. The 2 revelations I had while wedding registering were only heightened as we registered for baby.

Austin had a revelation of his own while we registered: We were meant to have a son right now. Clearly we were - if you believe in God, destiny, fate or any sort of life-plan like that then you believe that things happen for a reason. We are pregnant and we are having a son, so obviously we were meant to - we believe that was God's plan for us. But this revelation occurred to Austin in the infant clothing department at Target.

When Austin was in high school he played football and basketball, and his number was 36. It seems that this season, or maybe its every season and I just don't know it, baby clothing manufacturers got together and decided that the best jersey number to use on their sporting clothes would be 36. After our ultrasound at 12 weeks, where Missy told me she was "strongly suspicious" it was a boy we were at babies r us and saw a little baseball outfit with the number 36 on it. It was a full body outfit, long sleeved and long pants, which is good for the time of year William will be born, and #36 - so we had to get it. Then I believe I blogged a few weeks ago about the precious outfit that I found that said "little line backer" for next football season - it didn't have a number on it, but it did have linebacker, which was Austin's position. Yesterday at Target, however, there was not one baby sporting outfit that had a number other than 36. There was a 3 piece outfit with fleece pants, a fleece hoodie, and a long sleeved onesie - the pants and hoodie were blue and the hoodie has a patch on it that says something related to football. We couldn't really see the onesie at first, but it looked like it had footballs and helmets on it - all the 3 piece suits were on sale for really cheap, so we decided we'd buy one. There were a few boy designs and a few girl designs, but we didn't like any of the other boy options so we actually picked football by default (which is odd for Austin...and possibly for me...) It wasn't until a few minutes later that I looked closer and saw all the little #36's on the onesie and on the inside of the hood of the jacket. I showed Austin and his face was beaming. What was once a buy by default became a must-have pretty quickly, and even if it weren't on sale and were overpriced I believe it would have found a home in our shopping cart. (the shopping cart we ONLY got to hold our coats...yeah...right...)

We continued looking through the clothes and I found a onesie on sale for $2 that says "Daddy's #1 Draft Pick" It didn't have a #36, but it was $2...and how can you pass up any baby item for $2? Tough to do, let me tell you. Couldn't buy the onesie though without the pants...and the matching jacket was so cute so why not...so a $2 onesie turned into a $10 outfit. Definitely necessary.

The pile in the cart was slowly getting higher when we get to the baby accessory section. Let me stop here and briefly touch on my concern with baby shoes. I believe babies need them. I realize that their feet never hit the ground, and I realize that the shoes get kicked off 9 times out of 10 and they grow out of them rapidly. I get that. But when I was about...6?...Maizeanne was a baby and Jan would bring her to church with no shoes on. WHAT A TRAVESTY. I just couldn't fathom a little person with bare feet. I gave Jan grief about it on a weekly basis and vowed (at age 6...have I mentioned I was born to be a mom?) to never have a child without shoes. As I grew up I realized that this vow would most certainly be broken and I would eat my own words, but right now I'm still of the belief that William's feet need shoes. At least socks...but when at all possible, shoes too. However, most other baby accessories seem useless to me and I smirk at people that insist on having them. I know this is a bit hypocritical, as I just expressed an urgent need for shoes for someone who will never touch the floor, but I just can't help it. So as Austin is perusing through the accessory area I am daydreaming, not at all paying attention, when BAM - a pair of infant sunglasses appear 2 inches from my face. The sunglasses are blue and look to have no special quality to them until Austin tilts them at a different angle and I see the TINY #36 imprinted on the side. As I become aware of the connection but am not yet aware of the need for infant sunglasses, they are quickly scanned onto William's registry. Sunglasses you ask? Yes. I may have registered for an overabundance of socks, but sunglasses???

Right next to the sunglasses were 2 pair of newborn shoes that Austin was drawn to - both related to football. While I do see the need in shoes, I am always weary of the size labeled "newborn". I know that the average baby born in the US is less than 8 pounds, so I know that newborn clothes do fit most babies when they are born, but for how long? I also know that I barely fit into 0-3 month clothes on my birthday, and Austin wasn't itty bitty himself - so in my opinion, the chance of William being 8 pounds or less is pretty slim. But, Austin NEEDED these 2 newborn shoes...so, on the registry they went.

This is how most of the day went. I pointed out things like bottles, assorted sizes of bottle nipples, high chairs, bibs, etc...some were scanned, some didn't quite make the cut. However, if you go to Target or to www.target.com and look at our registry you will find that not many toys that Austin liked were overlooked. Good thing he's planning to build a toy chest, cause we don't have a spot for all the things he felt William needed. I am remembering the first Christmas I had Reagan...how I bought him all sorts of toys that he was only briefly interested in but how much he loved the empty boxes and wrapping paper...assuming babies are similar and that we won't NEED all those toys. But, as you now know, they are on the registry and on Austin's mind for his hopes and dreams for William's infanthood.

I did manage to squeeze some books on there, though Austin kept sneaking away to the movies while I was looking at the books. I didn't realize, then, that he was actually scanning movies. I think he put a Disney Christmas movie on there - which is somewhat practical - but I think he also put the Jetsons. The Jetsons. He is a big fan of "old school" cartoons and doesn't like these "new age weird kid shows" so I know he intends to brainwash our children into only liking the "classics" I assume the jetsons falls into this category, as I wouldn't know because I didn't really get into cartoons that weren't made by Disney, and that this is his attempt to replace Dora the Explorer with something he thinks is better.

Moral of the story, if you see anything with the number 36 on it, Austin would be incredibly touched if you bought it. I think we've pretty well covered the sports concept and have done our best to instill a desire to play football within William, but I guess overkill can't hurt? That's the theory Austin is going with anyway. We're also good on the color blue, if you ask me. By our own fault, I assure you, and by the fault of baby designers who believe there are only 2 colors in the baby-rainbow (pink or blue) Its not that I have a problem with blue - I just don't think it ALL needs to be blue...but the cutest clothes seem to be, and that's where I've gravitated so far.

This weekend's William-work is to install shelves in his closet. This might be my favorite part of his room, and I might have had it made up in my mind before you even knew I was pregnant. I've designed it at Container Store and they are having their shelving sale that ends this Sunday, so the time has come. Plus, the clothes will be WAY more fun to look at when they're hanging up rather than stacked in his drawers where I can only see what is on top. I'm sure there will be lots of fun closet pictures to come :)

My day has wandered away from me - its 4:30 somehow and I still have so much to do. I apologize for being a bit spacey and maybe less dedicated in my blogs recently - my brain is overloaded and my body is worn out, this work thing is REALLY starting to get in the way of life. But - I'll save all of that for another day. Until then............

Oct 10, 2009

I am Not Buddah

I have been struggling for quite some time on whether or not I'd blog about this. I went back and forth because I know that it could possibly come across as being rude or offensive...but, today, I am just not worried about that.



Remember when you were a kid and you walked into a Chinese restaurant where Buddah's statue greeted you in the doorway? Remember how you were told that if you rubbed Buddah's belly it would bring you good luck? Let me just tell you - pregnant women are not Buddah. Rubbing a pregnant belly will not bring you any sort of luck, so you can stop trying now.



I do realize that I have the privilege of feeling William every day now, and when people see me they just want to share in that. I get that. But let me ask you this: Would you like to share in my pain on Feb 21 (ish) when I give birth? Cause if not, I don't think I have to share this with you - it only seems fair that I get the perk since I'm the one doing the work.

Now - if you are just SO moved by the sight of a round pregnant belly and you want to touch it out of love, please remember that you are in fact invading a woman's personal space - so asking permission MIGHT make the move a little easier. I have nearly swatted away the hands of people that I like - I don't want to be rude, I don't want to catch anyone off guard or do any physical damage - really I don't. But I don't typically invite people to invade my space and touch me whenever/wherever they please without warning, so a little fore-warning might be helpful. Should you ask, I might be inclined to say ok. However, if we are together for 2 hours, one "touch" is sufficient - let me assure you. You don't need to rub Buddah for good luck 10 times in one conversation, you'll just end up rubbing off bad luck and probably get smacked across the face. And, let me also make a quick note: there is a difference in TOUCHING and RUBBING. A quick little touch on the stomach as you greet me (after you've asked, as we already covered) is one thing. Rubbing my belly like a genie will pop out and grant you 3 wishes - that's another thing. And KISSING? Let's not go there.

My mom is especially bothered by my disdain for the rubbing of my belly. She seems to think its something I just "have to get used to" I don't think so. I think an easy way to make people stop would be for me to return to favor; anytime someone rubs my belly I'll rub theirs right back. People will quickly learn that your stomach is probably one of the LAST places you'd like to be touched, if you'd like to be touched at all, and maybe people would be so turned off by my reaction that they'd quit. And, if not, at least I have something to do back to them besides slap them :)

My mom also has expressed concern that I won't "allow" Austin to touch my stomach - so I had to let her know that no, Austin is in fact allowed. It is his child too, and he will be there Feb 21 also experiencing pain of his own (granted not to the degree of mine, but I can squeeze pretty tightly...) so he has earned the belly-rights. He generally scratches my stomach in the morning to say good morning to William, and he kisses it at night to say goodnight. He might touch it at some other point in the day too - that just depends. A little over a week ago when I started to feel William kicking for the first time Austin was playing with him. Austin couldn't feel him move so I'd tell him where William was moving, Austin would push back at him and talk to him, and then William would kick back. It was pretty precious, and Austin loved feeling like he was already playing with his son. He has also laid his iPhone on my belly while playing country music, as we read that at this stage William can now hear and distinguish different types of music. So, see, I do allow him to partake in the joy...I just don't think everyone at my work needs to join in with us. They won't be there when he's born, they certainly weren't there when he was conceived, so do they REALLY need to be a part of this? I don't know - make your own judgements I suppose.

I'm sure this is first of MANY opinions/choices I will make as a parent (probably not even the first actually) that will make people think I'm crazy or I've done something wrong. Oh well, that's how it goes. I'm sure I'll make lots of parental choices that are wrong, lots that I think are right but you may think are wrong, and overall I'll probably make some hands-down correct calls along the way. I can tell you that, if you haven't already had your children, I will not touch your stomach without asking you...you might think that's weird of me, and you might not care that I ask...but I will because I will remember how odd this belly-situation is.

I'll get off this soapbox now and let you all cast your judgements - really, I don't mind.